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Daily Journal of Mahaan, an Iranian-American student residing in USA.

Thursday, October 30, 2003

Category: Personal

What's the right decision when you're some how mad of a close friend? Talk with him/her frankly and bold and say all the feelings or act conservative? Yes, first quick solution is always: Go talk! But practically I have seen many people don't show a real tolerance when you criticize them and if you really care about keeping the relationship (for example when the person is associated with you through family connections), then you have to play the safe game.
I guess it more depends on the level that you about the person. There are times that you really get to a discussion with the person and then suddenly you figure out how terrible he looks at some of the old interactions and then that person is not the same as before for you. This practically happened to me couple of weeks ago when I talked with a friend due to some problem that I had with one small behavior of him, and then I figured out how terrible has he been looking at my behavior and in some way I feel the whole thing is some how different for me. I'm not sure if that's the right thing. Maybe some time is better that you have a shallow and fake relation with some of the people instead of trying to hammer the relationship in these kind of complex interactions, because the bottom line is that you probably want to have some fun once in a while with them and throughout these kind of complex discussion you might end up with loosing even that shallow relationship. I guess these are practicality of life (and in some way some sort of conservative way of looking into social interacts) that I'm leaning towards.
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