Conflicting or complementary thoughts

Nothing is new in the following thoughts. You keep hearing them from various people and keep reading them in the self help litreture. They sound logical. You might think that they're complementary. But they're also contradictory in some ways. And yet, individuals keep saying them and believe in them ...

1. Basic thought: Your partnership is the most import decision of your life. After birth and death that are out of your control, marriage is what will decide the fate of your life.

2. You're the problem: You think that you secure and insure your life with a great parternship, but at the end it's you who shapes the outcome of your life. Instead of trying to fill your loneliness and other emtoional problems, work on yourself. Enjoy yourself!

3. Destiny: You once might think that you have a great control on your life: You've a good job, education, your dream partner and then something comes out of blue: a sudden death of a loved one, A physically disabled child, A market crash, an accident, etc. So don't push things too hard. At the end your destiny is something not totally in your hands.

4. All about my ego: The problem comes from thinking all the time about "ME". Leave this "ME" out... move beyond yourself. Think about life and what are WE humans can do for each other. "ME" gets a meaning when it helps "US". Trash your egos

5. One way or the other: Just do your best at each critical point. Whatever is the outcome, you are sure that you've done your job and the rest is out of your hand....

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